Friday, 12 September 2014

Influences.



Its come to my attention that just lately, more than usual - so many people are worried about what others think of them. They're constantly trying to impress people, whether thats a man/boy, a friend or even someone they envy. I'm all for a little competition in life, it makes it interesting but I've realised that I've not seen anything about influences, no one is shouting about who influences them, they're not thankful to anyone, they're just all jealous and rude towards each other. 

So I figured I would write a blog post to try and spread some positivity and share with you my main influences in life. 

Firstly, and most importantly without doubt my Mother is my biggest influence. She is everything I imagine I'd want to be when I'm older. She's no where near perfect, she's made loads of mistakes but they've made her grow as a women, they've shaped her into the women she is today and I'm proud of her. 




There was a time way back, in school where I thought I hated my Mum. She would tell me I couldn't do things, I had done something wrong, we argued so much it was unreal, but as I grew older I realised that she actually did do it for my own good. You know that saying that parents drum into you throughout your childhood 
''I'm only saying/doing this because I care about you'' ... guess what? It's true!!! 
I am such a stubborn person, but my independence and loyalty comes from this. I know what I want, and I know how I'm going to get it. I've made mistakes, but admitted defeat and corrected them mistakes, or at least tried too. I've set myself goals, and reached most of them. If not, its not the end of the world, I won't beat myself up about it, I will continue trying. I can honestly say that all of this is because of her, my amazing Mother. 










If I can be half the Mother she has been to me, to my children. I'd be ever so grateful. She has brought me up alone, struggled but never ever given up. She's fought my battled with me, guided me and inspired me from day one. 






Secondly, without doubt my Grandparents have been a huge influence in my life. My late Granddad  who passed away because of Cancer was more of a Father to me than my boilogical Father could have ever been. My discipline definitely come from him. I have never loved or trusted a man as much as I did him. He taught me many life lessons, including how to tie my shoe laces - I'm not kidding either.  





















I think he regained some of my hope in men, I think if I could marry a man as generous, loving, warm and honest as my Granddad then I would have well and truly scored!! He was a true gentleman. He also battled Cancer for over 7 years, numerous types and severity but I suppose theres only so much one single person can do, fight, and put up with. Loosing him also taught me to take care of yourself more. You only get one life, you need to look after your body and work hard!! He was such a hard worker when he was younger, and healthier. 




As for my Nan's, they've all been amazing people, but of course I'm going to say that, they were/are my family. I have lost 3 Nan's, two of which passed away because of Cancer also. Again, they were fighters!!  They were all independent women, strong and loyal. They were obviously brought up in the 50s/60s so their morals were completely different. They would often tell me stories about when they were younger and would have a 'Hair Washing Night' and how 'You'd only ever date one man, that was it'  I think I learnt a load of lessons from their stories and advice whilst growing up.  
























I really think Grandparents aren't noticed as much in this day and age. It's sad because my Grandparents were/are such a big part of my life. They're like second parents. I don't think you see that much today, thats really sad. 





Thirdly, an unexpected choice I think but Music. I can not imagine my life without it. A single song can completely change my mood. I am listening to a playlist right now, music gets my creativity flowing, blocks out the world, inspires me to be a better person, to be happy, to be motived. 





If I'm at the gym, it will spare me on, if I'm in bed, it'll send me to sleep, if I'm in a club, it will make me dance. It's seriously such an influence in my life, and is in a lot of peoples lives. I don't think people realise until they actually sit down and think about it. I must spend half of each and every single day listening to music. I have always had an musical influence in my life, which I also gained from my Granddad but at the same time, I love to sing. 




I'm not sure what exactly it is about music that influences me, because I love such a variety. I listen to the beat, I feel the beat but I also hear the words. I can relate to music, song lyrics, they get me thinking - dreaming and believing. 






It would be interesting to hear what/who influences you ... 






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3 comments:

  1. Such a beautiful post Shannon xxx

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    1. Thank you Gemma, I'm glad you enjoyed it! Xxxx

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  2. This is a great post, such a reminder that family is important.

    Meg | Meghan Silva's Blog

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