Tuesday, 8 July 2014

Confidence Issues



Hello my beauties! 
A well over-due post if I'm completely honest! I have been so busy with my new job, and I've been working late and up super early the next day so the littlest bit of sleep I could catch - I've caught! 

I've wanted to write a blog post about confidence for a while now, but lacking confidence to do so has held me back. I've not really been sure at how to approach the subject, what to write and how much of my personal life to share. 

Being a plus sized teenager wasn't easy. The constant looks, laughs, stares, and pressure to feel 'better' than you are is ridiculous and its only getting worse as we progress through years. It makes me sad that so many teenagers feel pressured to be something they're not, just to avoid being judged or bullied. 

Growing up as the 'bigger' girl than all my friends was hard to say the least. I mean, I always found myself having friends but that was due to the huge front I used to put on, and still do to this day! I am still known as 'Fat, Bubbly Shannon who loves taking Photographs' but feeling like you constantly have to put on this front, sometimes gets a little too much! 


I thought I would share with you my top 5 tips for building confidence. I hope that they can help some of you, and I'd love you to share some of yours too! 

HOLD YOUR OWN. 

I think its important for people to realise that everyone is different, and everyone will be judged at least once in their life! It doesn't matter what you do, or how you go about it. Someone in the world will disapprove but it doesn't mean you're wrong. It doesn't mean that you don't deserve to be happy in your own skin! Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone deserves happiness. So when someone calls you a name, backs you into a corner or makes you feel any smaller than you deserve to feel, you remember that you've been placed on this earth for a reason and you are beautiful! 




THINK POSITIVE. 

This helps me on a daily basis. When you wake up, put on your favourite song! Eat your favourite breakfast, drink your favourite tipple and just cherish that you are alive! A quote that has helped my confidence in times of need is 'Its a bad day, not a bad life' It sounds petty and worthless but it really does work! I often find myself reminding myself 'I'm going to have a good day today' and it honestly helps! I walk taller, I feel happier within myself and I therefor come across as a more confident person. It takes some time, so don't pressure yourself, but you need to learn to think positive and believe that you currently may feel like poop but that feeling won't last forever! What's making you feel non-positive? Can you change it? Can you personally resolve the situation(s) one at a time to gradually reduce the lack of positivity in your life? Resulting in a happier you? 



REJECT NEGATIVITY. 

Following on from my previous point, why would you openly accept negativity in your life? If someone doesn't like you, who cares? If someone makes a horrible comment, who cares? Brush it off and move the hell on! You can only hurt if you consume these comments. Reject the negativity and in time you'll find it easier. Your confidence will only build so far unless you knock back the negativity, think of negativity as a brick wall. Nothing can get through, over or around. Your positivity will be blocked. You need to slowly, one by one dismantle that brick wall (is that even possible?) you know what I mean guys! 



SMALL GOALS ARE ACHIEVABLE. 

Start small! This refers to anything you're trying to tackle in life. You wouldn't start a diet and expect to wake up on the second day 4stone lighter? You wouldn't start a new job and expect to purchase a mortgage the day later? Its the same with confidence, its not going to happen over night and you need to accept that to be able to achieve it. Set yourself small goals, that way you'll effectively see your confidence building. Nothing happens over night, and confidence takes years to build and seconds to break. Remember that but stay strong and you'll be fine! 



ADMIT AND LEARN. 

Admit your mistakes and learn from them! No one is perfect, and this can sometimes work in your advantage. Don't hold information in that could potentially free you! Talk to people about how you feel, explain how certain situations make you feel. Never expect people to understand, but expect them to listen. There is always someone out there who is going through the same situation as you, there is always someone who if feeling or felt the way you do. Ask for help, it doesn't make you weak. 




I hope that this post helps at least one person and please feel free to message me if you'd like to chat. I will always offer my time to try and help people. 
You are not alone, and you are beautiful in your own individual way. 


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